Internet commentators have rallied around a bride-to-be who finally received the financial support she lacked as a child.
In a viral Reddit post posted to r/AmITheA**hole, Redditor u/Dull-Handle-7586 (otherwise known as the original poster, or OP) said she recently came into contact with her paternal grandparents who , after learning of his existence, were determined to rectify their son’s financial malfeasance.
Entitled, “[Am I the a**hole] for ‘forcing’ my dad to pay child support?” the post received 18,000 upvotes and more than 2,000 comments in the last ten hours.
“My dad is ad**k,” OP began, dryly. “When he got my mum pregnant, he wanted her to quit her job and stay home…my mum refused and divorced her.”
Going on to explain that his father is entitled to a substantial trust fund, the original poster stated that after the divorce he returned to Europe without ever mentioning his newly abandoned family and without paying a single child support.
The original poster also indicated that as she prepares to marry nearly three decades later, only fate could bring her father – and his trust fund – back into her life.
“I met the love of my life in college and we’ve been together for eight years,” OP wrote. “His family is from the same town as my father…[and] because of a lot of intertwined business… my [paternal] grandparents found out about my impending marriage and me.
“When they found out my dad had basically abandoned me…they had their lawyer calculate the amount of child support. [he] should have paid with interest…then gave [me] this as a gift,” OP continued. “What I didn’t know was that it came from my dad’s annual drawdown of his trust fund.
“He contacted me and told me that his current wife and children would be negatively affected if I did not return this money to him,” OP added. [But] I won’t give it back.”
Child support, according to the National Conference of State Legislatures, is a vital source of income for millions of children and is widely credited with lifting children and their families out of poverty.
Two years ago, data released by Statista revealed that more than 18 million children in the United States lived with a single custodial parent.
The Parenting Very Well Family website reports that about half of these households have some type of child support arrangement in place, whether it’s an informal agreement between the parents or a schedule. payment imposed by the government.
However, children and custodial parents who are entitled to child support do not always receive the financial assistance they desperately need.
While nearly 70% of custodial parents received payment (in italics) from their non-custodial counterparts, the US Census Bureau reports that only 44% received the full amount of child support owed each year.
Throughout the comments section of the viral Reddit post, Redditors acknowledged the shortcomings and serious financial effects associated with missed child support payments and advised the original poster to keep every penny his grandparents saved. -paternal parents had given him.
“[Not the a**hole]“, wrote Redditor u/VoyagerVII in the main comment of the post, which received more than 18,000 upvotes. “He should have paid for it all along.”
“Your grandparents look bada**,” they added.
“Looks like they’re good people,” agreed Redditor u/salty_drafter, receiving nearly 5,000 upvotes. “Keep them around.”
Redditor u/Vegan_4evah, whose comment received nearly 6,000 upvotes, offered a more pointed response.
“Imagine abandoning your own daughter only to call her years later to beg for money,” they wrote. “A pathetic AND asshole.”
“It’s time to shut him up,” added Redditor u/kevwelch, receiving nearly 2,000 upvotes. “Let him know that if he continues to harass you, you will show his texts, emails and calls to his parents. Ask him how he thinks they would react.”
In a separate comment, which received over 4,000 upvotes, Redditor u/stophittingthyself speculated that even if the original poster wanted to return the money, they probably wouldn’t be able to.
“[Not the a**hole]“, they wrote. “Your grandparents will not accept it anyway.”
“His [their] money to use as they see fit. They decided to give it to their grandson and not to their lazy son,” they added.
Newsweek contacted u/Dull-Handle-7586 for comment.