A mother has been slammed online after asking her child’s stepmother to pay child support after the father abandoned her.
The woman shared in a popular Reddit post that her husband left the family just over a month ago. Together they had two daughters while he also had a daughter from a previous marriage, although there was no formal custody arrangement they often cared for her on a weekend On two. The husband would also pay his ex-wife child support at the beginning of each month.
According to the wife, he cited not being able to ‘hack’ being a father anymore as his reason for leaving and even changed his number and blocked her on all social media after he left, almost making no contact possible.
“I’ve been a stay-at-home mom since our eldest was born, I graduated and we talked about my return to the workforce once she started kindergarten this year in the fall, but this was nothing set in stone. My husband literally gave me an allowance every week to buy groceries, pay bills, diapers, whatever the kids needed. I was always hiding a bit, but he was definitely the breadwinner in our relationship,” she wrote.
Worrying about finances when a family breaks up is not irrational. Recent US Census data shows that 30.1% of children with one parent living outside the household are in poverty, about three times the rate of children in households where both parents are present.
Half of all custodial parents had legal or informal child support agreements, but three in 10 who were supposed to receive child support in 2017 received no payment.
In this situation, the woman claimed that the ex-wife contacted her via text message and asked if she could receive the child support she usually receives each month: $900.
“She told me she needed the $900 he usually gives her because she and her new husband are struggling to pay their bills and they’re ‘relying’ on that child support to pay their rent. , and they were late,” she wrote.
“I told him I couldn’t do it. Because in truth I can’t. I’m still waiting for an appointment so I can get government benefits because with the little money I I saved up, it’s gone now after paying every bill on my own To keep a roof over my own and my kids’ heads, make sure they’re fed, etc.
The refusal to pay was met with anger from the ex-wife, who ‘blew up’ her phone and hurled insults, threatening to keep her child away from her half-siblings.
After gaining attention online, the situation sparked opinions, with many criticizing the ex-wife and her behavior.
“Don’t pay her a DOLLAR. Don’t prioritize that there is ANY sort of financial obligation,” one user wrote.
“The nerve of her even asking you to focus on your own kids,” another recommended.
One user also advised: “Don’t give her anything! Unfortunately it’s not your place to take care of her child/your daughter-in-law. She has her husband to settle things with, you have no one to look after. lean on. Focus on your kids and keep a roof over their heads and yours.”
In response, the mother said she was waiting for a meeting with a divorce lawyer to start formal proceedings and seek child support for her own children.
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